Grief is a natural response to losing someone or something that’s important to you. You may feel a variety of emotions, like sadness or loneliness. And you might experience it for a number of different reasons. Maybe a loved one died, a relationship ended, or you lost your job. Pat says we grieve for that which we have loved and the depth of our grieving reflects the depth of that love.
Grief and loss can be experienced as a result of illness, bereavement, divorce, redundancy or restructuring in the workplace. There is also a myriad of little deaths such as changing house, shifting jobs, moving away from friends, family feuds, flashes of envy, and those sharp pangs of loneliness. In his book The Reality slap, Dr Russ Harris talks about the reality slap—those times when life brings a painful blow. And the slap is just the beginning as following the slap is the gap. This is the gap between the reality we want and the reality we have, and the bigger the gap the more pain we experience.
In the midst of pain, though, we often find great passion, creativity and the development of self-compassion. Pat says “It is my honour to lead you on this path.”
How can Pat help?
Pat Armitstead is no stranger to grief and loss. She lost her home and business twice; is a cancer survivor; endured a violent relationship; avoided bankruptcy by repaying $80,000 in 2 years; had 10 car accidents in 18 months ( none her fault so she says), and plummeted when her partner of 20 years left with another woman. This lived experience uniquely positions Pat to hold you gently as you journey through grief.
Pat can support with the following:-
- Grief and Depression following death, divorce, depletion, disappointment, dramas and disasters
- Grief and Depression following a downturn, a drought, dementia,
- Moving through the loss of a family member
- Honouring the loss of a child
- Moving through redundancies
- Recovering from bankruptcy
- Trauma following natural disasters
- Release of patterns that don’t serve
- Release of emotional pain
Pat knows full well that everybody grieves differently, and for those facing adversity from any source the passage is not linear.
She says Grief is perceiving there is nowhere to place our love and sadness is love announced.
A meaningful life is a happy life
Pat Armitstead believes a meaningful life is a happy life, so her intention is to lead people to find meaning and purpose in their loss.
She uses her NLP and Mbraining processes, Positive Psychology principles, ACT ( Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Emotional Intelligence, Mindfulness, Meditation, The Virtues, Storytelling, ceremony and ritual. Pat takes a holistic and integrated approach, based on individual need to build resilience and support others to endure
Pat Armitstead is New Zealand’s answer to Patch Adams” Dr Ric Coleman, North Shore Auckland
“Pat is like a spiritual midwife, delivering people out of dark times”
“Pat your wisdom, your patience, your heart and sense of perspective that I didn’t have at the time is truly beautiful! During the braining session Pat could see through me, see the pain and know where and what needed to be bought back in balance. Thank you for integrating me once again. You have helped me in ways beyond what I thought I needed.”
Much love and gratitude. Karen “